So here goes, my first blog. I’m Katie, I’m a thirty-something woman looking for my match. I’ve dated a lot, in fact I’m often told by my married friends that they love living vicariously through my dating life. Maybe it’s because I hate to disappoint, maybe it’s because I really am a hopeless romantic, but no matter how many times I get hurt, or how many times I go on dates that ultimately leave me disappointed in the male species, I decide to get back up and try again. I’ve been asked what my type is, but if you would look at the series of guys I’ve dated, you’ll see that I don’t really have one. The only thing most of them have in common is that in the end, I realize they weren’t the right guy. I’ve dated assholes that didn’t treat me well, I’ve dated nice guys that let me walk all over them. I’ve been engaged to what seemed like the only right guy for me, only to have my heart broken in the worst way. Guys with kids, guys with baggage, guys with money, and even a guy who still lived with his parents. Heck, I’ve even dated a married guy (unbeknownst to me) and a guy with no large intestines. I’m just always in search of that “feeling”. I can say that I have been the ender of most of these relationships; I used to think that was a good thing, now I’m not so sure, I’m always running away.
So my New Year’s resolution was to find love for real. No more settling, no more not taking risks, so I signed up with OkCupid the other day, and decided to go for it. I hate admitting to anyone that I’m going the online route, but let’s face it, at this point in my life, how else are you supposed to meet someone? I’ve done the bar scene, talking to the cute guy, just to find out 20 minutes later that they are in a relationship. I’ve dated someone I work with, and still have to face him every single day. And I’ve met guys in almost every possible way imaginable, even while picking out vegetables in the supermarket (and I should have known that he would be a control freak when he insisted I buy tomatoes on the vine instead of the grape tomatoes), so why not? And honestly, I’ve done it before. But I’m taking a new approach. In the past, I wanted to exchange lots of emails with the guy, making sure he wasn’t a psychopath and trying to avoid seeming too eager. But then what happens is you put a lot of time and energy into composing the perfect email, and then texts, and then phone calls, only to meet up a couple weeks later and realize that the guy is nothing at all what you had imagined. So no, I’m not going that route anymore; I’m jumping in, feet first. So after I updated my profile, I quickly scanned my perfect matches (because I’m sure there is a huge scientific formula for the way that these guys are matched with me, and if the OkCupid gods decide that a guy is 95% right for me, who am I, mere mortal, to argue?) and sent out a series of witty emails, consisting of “Hey there, I’m Katie, and you seem interesting.” I wasn’t sure anyone would want to write me back, but what happened was 7 out of 8 guys did email me back, and said that I seemed interesting too!
And so it starts- my next dating adventure. And as a matter of fact, I’m about to head out on for a coffee meet-up with one of the guys now. My goal is to meet some interesting people, and maybe even find one that gives me that “feeling”, but I’m not planning on settling for just anyone. So we’ll see who is deserving of Catching Katie.